Sunday, January 6, 2019

Saving the World in My Pajamas :-)

Batman and Superman are cool but you have to wonder why they fight crime in their pajamas. You're not crazy, they do--and I can prove it. When I was five, my mother bought me a Batman costume for Halloween and it said right there on the label: "Costume can be used as sleepwear". And sleep in it I did, probably until the next Halloween. It made me feel strong and mighty, a girl batman, a real bad-ass. Not much has changed. I did stop dressing up for Halloween when my kids stopped and even then my costume consisted only of a witch's hat ('cause witches are bad-ass too), but I kept the job of world-saving in my heart. 

But how do you save the world when you don't have a single super-power? It's a dilemma, for sure, and a problem I thought about for a long time. Wealth is a super-power as money can save lives, heal the sick, house the poor, but I didn't have that either. What did I have to offer? I was just one person with good intentions and there were so many things that needed fixing. I didn't even know where to start. Then I thought, what would Batman do? He wouldn't hesitate, he would leap into action even if he might not succeed, or it wouldn't be enough, or he might die (don't worry, Batman always lives), so I took a leap. I joined a civic organization, I wrote a letter to the editor, I joined activist social media groups, I gathered signatures to restore the vote to the disenfranchised. I kept going until one day I realized things were changing, and I was helping.  

Sitting at my computer late at night sending e-mails, planning meetings, and writing letters, I realized that I, too, am saving the world in my pajamas. And Batman and Superman showed me how it was done.




Tuesday, December 25, 2018

My Mother's Lipstick


When our mom died of cancer, my sisters and I were desperate to hold onto our memories of her. Over the next few days, we wore out her voicemail so we could hear her voice again and scrounged through her to-do lists for a memento of her thoughts. We divided up photos and letters. One sister kept her silver mirror, another, her cookbooks because they had always cooked together. 

But what did I want? I wanted to bottle her laughter, preserving in perpetuity our silly jokes. I wanted a soft blanket of her kindness to warm me when the world was cold. I wanted more time.

What I took was her favorite lipstick, slightly worn down and not my shade. The following year, on my son's birthday, I took it out of the drawer and put it to good use. While he slept, I wrote Happy Birthday on his bathroom mirror with that lipstick. I drew a cake and balloons and hearts. He started his birthday with a big grin on his face and was touched to learn it was grandma's lipstick. Now, every year, on everyone's birthday, my family starts the day with a lipstick celebration and feel the love their grandmother brought into their life.

The opposite of a Horcrux, that lipstick is an object imbued with love.

My oldest son, now an adult, happened to be in town for his birthday this year and settled into his old room for the night. Of course, he awoke to an elaborate lipstick panorama of birthday wishes on his mirror. After he left town, I saw that he had wiped his mirror almost clean. All that remained was a single lipstick heart. 

Wednesday, November 14, 2018

WORD RIFF OF THE DAY


"So I'd like to know where, you got the notion…"

My brain likes to sing. I know that sounds like fun--except it's not. My brain gets stuck on one phrase, singing it over and over without any help from mouth or vocal cords. How does it do that? Is this what madness sounds like? When King Lear said that a person's notion weakens he meant they were losing their grip on reality. It shouldn't be surprising then that an antonym for notion is reality.

"Don't rock the boat, don't rock the boat, baby"

Notion comes from the Latin word notio (idea) and from notus (known) and is remarkably similar when translated into a number of languages, all of which use a variation of the word notion or idea. Seems like everyone has notions, wherever they live. Only in North America does notion also mean a sewing item, like buttons, pins, zippers, and hooks.

"Our love is like a ship on the ocean
We've been sailing with a cargo full of love and devotion."

A cargo full of love and devotion. Ah! Who wouldn't want that? We have The Hues Corporation to thank for this catchy song and lovely rhyme. What other words could they have picked to rhyme with ocean? Not as many you would think: Emotion or potion could have worked, but I don't see any possibilities when it comes to commotion, promotion, demotion, or lotion. Personally, I would have loved to see them try to use Laotian.

A notion can simply be an idea or it can be so much more. A notion can be an idea that springs to life because of your beliefs, your impressions, your opinions, and most importantly, your perception of the world. There's a Spanish phrase, cada cabeza es un mundo, which translates to each head is its own world. In other words, your perception of reality is your reality.

A notion can also be an impulse or desire, especially the whimsical kind. Oh, whimsical, you're one of my favorite words but, Shh…don't tell the others.

According to vocabulary.com, a notion is lighter than a theory and embraces a whimsy that a simple idea never could. If you share a far-fetched idea with others, someone might respond with where did you get that notion?

You just tell them, "Be quiet, I'm singing."

Friday, November 2, 2018

HOBBIES FOR EVERYONE!


Everyone has a hobby, no matter how strange
It may seem to others who think you're deranged.
Collectors especially are looked at askew,
What's normal for them seems crazy to you.
An oologist collects eggs, which makes them quite reckless
Especially when they're eyeing your breakfast.
A dipterist collects flies, much like a spider.
If they spin their own webs, does that make them a writer? (Some pig!)
My hobby is harmless, I collect funny words.
And I'm gobsmacked by the ones I find most absurd.
English is chockablock with odd words, I'm chuffed to say.
I feel panurgic, like I could do this all day.
I'm not knackered or peckish, though it seems dodgy to you
I could lollygag all night on a word like jejeune.
The world is on fire and it may seem Quixotic
To spend my time on words so exotic.
If you prefer someone who seems like they care  
Find an arctophile, they collect teddy bears.
But I'm a logophile and I won't apologize.
Just be grateful I don't collect flies,


Sunday, October 7, 2018

Blast from the Past--The Witches of Eastwick!


Time travel with me to 1987 when the film "The Witches of Eastwick" debuted with its musical score by John Williams and its coven of lovely witches played by Cher, Susan Sarandon, and Michelle Pfeiffer. When the trio conjure up the perfect man (played by Jack Nicholson with a maniacal, diabolical flair) their lives spin out of control, delightfully at first, but then the danger becomes apparent.

Who will win this battle? Listen to me join the discussion on the Literary License podcast episode of "The Witches of Eastwick"--where we delve into both the book and the movie. 

You can find the podcast here:

Podbean:
https://literarylicense.podbean.com/e/season-2-episode-27-witches-of-eastwick/

Soundcloud:
https://soundcloud.com/user-734008474/season-2-episode-27-witches-of-eastwick

Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/1MTUMxTOLBd6kfrDGN69hH?si=YQhayp22THCz9EhkQXtV5g

iTunes:
https://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-literary-license-podcast/id1275942080?mt=2




Halloween Tradition :-O

In what has become my Halloween tradition, allow me to share with you a creepy little film that you shouldn't watch alone...

Before he became the iconic Joker, Heath Ledger spent a month in a hotel room trying to find the character. This film imagines that transformation.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3saW2-1F7gs



Saturday, September 29, 2018

Being the change...:-)


For those of you who don't know, I have an alias: Barbara Markley. This is my maiden name and although I've been married for almost 32 years I still use that name for work and for my activist alter-ego. Yes, I'm an activist who is passionate about many causes but the one that takes most of my time is gun safety. When you live in a country where you are 25 times more likely to die from gun violence than in any other developed nation, and you live in a state (Florida) where a child is shot every 17 hours on average, you feel compelled to take action.

I started a program called Lock it Up!, a non-partisan program to protect children and teens from unlocked guns. This program is through the Broward League of Women Voters' Gun Safety Committee, which I chair. I was thrilled when WLRN, our local NPR station, did a feature story on our project this week. 

Check it out: 
http://www.wlrn.org/post/surprising-allies-address-outsize-role-guns-play-deaths-soldiers-and-kids